The Five Love Languages

Today, I want to talk about relationships, and I want to talk about the love languages. There's an incredible book by Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages. We all have different ways that make us feel loved. There are people that need quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of service.
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Today, I want to talk about relationships, and I want to talk about the love languages.  There's an incredible book by Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages.  We all have different ways that make us feel loved.  There are people that need quality time, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of service. 

We're all different in what we need to feel truly loved and appreciated. 

So, for me, for example, words of affirmation and quality time.  My wife being fully present with me – no phones, no TV, nothing else going on, but just spending time with two of us together makes me feel so loved and so safe and so sure of our connection. 

Now for her, she's more about acts of service.  She loves having a tidy house, for example.  So, if I keep the house tidy and do little things to make it look clean and comfortable, she feels totally loved.  Now, if I mess up the house she doesn't feel loved at all. 

We all have different ways of feeling loved.  If you can find out what your partner's love language is -- does your wife love getting gifts?  When you give her a gift it means you were thinking about her and you thought of something she might like, and in giving that to her she felt so adored.

Now, that may not be what it takes for you to feel loved.  But if that's what it takes for her to feel loved, do those things.  We often get it wrong because we love people in a way that would make us feel loved.  But that's not necessarily what they need to feel loved.  Figure out your spouse's love language and love them in that way.  And let them know what it takes for you to feel loved and have them love you in that way and your relationship will go to whole new levels. 

We can all have the most incredible relationships, not just with a partner, husband or wife, but with our friends and with our family.  Find out what makes your loved ones feel so adored, so cherished, so celebrated.  Love them in that way and it will forever change your life and change your relationships.  Love is everything, guys.  Nothing feels better than lighting up someone's heart and soul.

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