Today, I want to answer a question that someone asked me on Facebook. They asked, "Siri, what tools and self reminders do you use at the moment to stay the course in telling your truth? Being fearlessly authentic and often choosing discomfort at the moment versus fast, easy and comfortable. Being fearlessly authentic often means choosing discomfort at the moment when one's truth does not line up with the expectations of others. How do you tackle that?"

What an amazing question, Karen Burkes! Basically, Fearless Authencity is a muscle that we need to work on to make that stronger. We need to keep building that muscle. That means you need to be true to you in every circumstance.

Here's the thing, guys...being fearlessly authentic means being vulnerable. It means being brave enough to say, "This is who I am. This is what I feel. This is what I believe. And I'm not going to compromise that." What I realized that the greatest gift about being fearlessly authentic is that you not only get much greater joy and internal peace, but it also leads to more deeper, trusting relationships. People know that what they see from me is what they are going to get. I am who I am. They'll know that I always say where I'm coming from. I'm going to be real and honest. People trust you when they know you are being real with them.

To me, I feel that it is so worth it to not have to struggle with the feeling that comes -- and I know this feeling well from when I was a youngster -- that feeling that you're trying to be something to "fit in" to get a certain job or have someone like you. You're having to be something that you're not. We think that we need to change to become something different to get what we want.

But no.

The easiest, simplest and most powerful, enjoyable way to achieve what we dream of is by being you. By being fearlessly, authentically YOU.

In every single moment, recognize yourself.

If you're with a group of people who have certain opinions, but your own opinion just doesn't match theirs, it's okay. It's okay to have a different opinion. If anything, know that we are all learning and growing from one another. We're seeing different perspectives from our conversations that add to our own perspective. When we have compassion, empathy, and lead with love, we can look at every single person, even if they have different beliefs to us, and love them. Love them for being human and for sharing their truths even if it differs from ours.

When we have compassion and empathy for others, that allows us to accept being different. It won't make us angry about the fact that they don't agree with our own beliefs. It will allow us to accept it and entertain that perspective and appreciate it, acknowledge it and hold on to what is true for you.

Nothing feels better than backing yourself in those moments. Nothing feels better than standing your ground for what you believe in.

Say you were standing your ground in a job interview, and you knew the answer to a question like "Do you have a husband?" -- for me, way back when, I could say "I'm gay." But what if this person asked me that question and I say "No, I'm gay." What if I don't get the job? Well, you know what? That's not the job I want anyway. That's not the job for me. Or maybe, they take a deep breath when I say, "No, I'm gay. I'm with a woman.," it gives them an opportunity to learn, grow and expand their belief system.

Whatever it is, trust in the fact that when you come home to the truth -- when you stand true with you and back yourself up and know that by presenting yourself as you are, everything about you -- fearlessly authentically you, you are giving the world the very best of you. Not a tweaked version of yourself where some of it is real and some of it is not. But you are giving the world all of who you are. All of your power, beauty and your perfection. That's what the world deserves. That's when we have the most impact. That's when we can be our best selves. Most importantly, we can achieve the most in our lives and get the most fulfillment. That fulfillment, peace, and joy inside.

So, please, aim to be fearlessly authentic.

First, you must know who you are. What do you care about? What do you believe in? What lights up your soul? What kind of impact do you want to have in the world around you?

Then don't compromise. Don't try to be something that you're not. Be you.

That is where you are your most powerful self. There will be moments where you will be challenged. But don't decide or act on fear. Act from a place of love -- and that means loving yourself first. Trust that your truth, your authenticity, is where you can be most powerful and impactful in this world, and your most loving and very best self.

Trust in you. Love yourself first. Lead with love. Accept others with love. Don't make decisions based on fear. Love yourself. Believe in you. Be fearlessly authentically you. Never compromise on that. The more you do it, the stronger you become. It's a muscle. Build it. And you will see that your capabilities become more powerful than you can imagine.

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