Good morning, everyone. Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.

Today, I want to talk about -- I'm going to share a story when my mom, who loves her dogs as much as she loves her own children. They are beautiful little pugs. And she lost one of her pugs about 10 years ago. He went in for a routine MRI and he ended up dying because they gave him too much of medication.

Obviously, as it would any of us, it absolutely devastated her. And that's sadness she's held on to for the last 10 years.

One day I said to her, "What what did Buddha care about most as your dog?" She said "He just cared that I was happy. And that I was taken cared of. And that he was always there for me putting a smile on my face."

I said, "Okay. Well, obviously this is just tragic. Tragic what happened. Devastating. But what do you think he would want for you, in your life now? Don't you think he would want you to be happy and taken care of?

She said "Well, of course.

I said, "Well, holding on to this pain and the sadness is -- would make him so sad. Knowing that because of him you've been feeling pain and sadness for 10 years. Maybe the best way to honor his beautiful soul is to, you know, live in the joy of the memories that you have with him. And be joyful. And try to be joyful. And try to focus on the wonderful times you shared, the love that you shared, the joyous times that you had with him. And feeling joy would be the best way to honor him because that's what he cared about the most -- you being happy.

Now, I share this story because I know the same happened to me. I lost my beautiful boy, Calvin. That was my doggie soulmate, love of my life. And I was devastated over him dying of cancer. We can also relate this to losing our friends, or losing family members.

And I know this is a hard conversation to have but I think sometimes we feel that we are honoring the memory of our loved ones by being sad and being depressed over it and mourning their loss. But what if we just for a moment think about what would they want for us? Would they want us to be mourning their loss still? Would they want us to be feeling sad still? Obviously that pains never going to go away, but maybe they would prefer that we have more moments of feeling the joy of the times we shared with them, the love that we shared, the experiences that we had together. And what if honoring them in the most beautiful way was by feeling the joy of what we shared with them rather than sitting in the pain of their loss. It's just a thought, but I share that with you.

I know it helped my mom when we had that conversation. And I know that it helped me. let's honor our loved ones that we have loved and lost by feeling the joy and the gratitude of the time and the love that we shared with them. Try and sit more in those moments rather than in the moments that cause us to feel sad and cause us to feel pain because our loved ones, we know, only want us to be happy. Remember that.

I love you all. Thank you for listening to the bed head chronicles.

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