Get Out of Your Pain
Now that being said, when we think about going through something tough--okay, a lot of us, we all -- we all are going to have tough moments, tough times, tough months -- but only you, only you can get yourself out of feeling bad. Only you.
Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.
Yes, I've got some pretty serious bedhead this morning and hopefully it's not offensive to anyone. But, again, this isn't about what we look like. It's about what we have to share and offer from the inside.
Part of how we feel in the world today, so often we let other people determine how we feel whether we're happy, sad, confident, or doubtful. When really, if you just come from inside and know yourself -- know your intention, know your love, know your heart -- and if you're going through a tough time thinking about all the times in your life that you have gone through a hard time before, and how every single time you found your way through it.
You came out the other side and most likely that led to something way better than you were even in before. We all have proven to ourselves that we have the ability to get through hard times.
Now that being said, when we think about going through something tough--okay, a lot of us, we all -- we all are going to have tough moments, tough times, tough months -- but only you, only you can get yourself out of feeling bad. Only you.
Someone else can, maybe, come for you or listen or give you support. But it's us -- you alone -- that can get yourself out of a spot where you are feeling horrible.
How do we do that? We talk about this all the time. Instead of focusing on the problem and everything that's wrong, start thinking about all the possible solutions. Instead of sitting there one place suffocated by your problem, start getting some momentum forward by engaging with all the different possibilities of solutions on how to fix your current situation. Focus on, instead of that one horrible thing...
Another thing that we all do is we create this negative spiral where something goes wrong and it either breaks your heart or upsets you or worries you. Then we start adding everything that we can possibly think of to make us worry even more or feel even sadder.
Don't do that.
Whatever that one thing is, that was a catalyst you feeling bad start thinking about what the possible solutions are to feeling better and getting out of this situation. But then start focusing, discipline yourself to focus on all the good in your life. Everything that you're grateful for. Even if it's a simple as you're -- as beautiful as your heart, your beautiful heart, beating in your chest. The fact that you woke up this morning. The fact that you have somewhere to go and that you have people who love you.
Focus on the good.
What we focus on we're going to get more of. If you want to focus on how bad you feel or how horrible things are, you're only going to find more evidence for more things that will you make you feel awful. But if you want to focus on everything great in your life -- everything great about you -- I mean, it's coming home to the truth and knowing who you are what your intentions are, the love you have in your heart, the love that you give.
Another thing when we are in a tough spot, or we're sad, or depressed, going through a struggle -- that is when, again, discipline yourself to get out there and give to someone else. Be of service to someone else. Even if it's to an animal or just a person -- help an older woman across the road. Whatever it is, make someone smile. Give to someone else and that will already propel you forward and give you momentum. Get you closer to feeling good and be free of that which is causing you to suffer.
I love you all so much. Thank you for accepting me even looking like this. It's not about what we have what we look like. It's about who we are on the inside, and what we can share with the world.
Share your love. Share your heart. Share your spirit. Be you. Be authentically you. Be brave. I love you all.
For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/
Yes, I've got some pretty serious bedhead this morning and hopefully it's not offensive to anyone. But, again, this isn't about what we look like. It's about what we have to share and offer from the inside.
Part of how we feel in the world today, so often we let other people determine how we feel whether we're happy, sad, confident, or doubtful. When really, if you just come from inside and know yourself -- know your intention, know your love, know your heart -- and if you're going through a tough time thinking about all the times in your life that you have gone through a hard time before, and how every single time you found your way through it.
You came out the other side and most likely that led to something way better than you were even in before. We all have proven to ourselves that we have the ability to get through hard times.
Now that being said, when we think about going through something tough--okay, a lot of us, we all -- we all are going to have tough moments, tough times, tough months -- but only you, only you can get yourself out of feeling bad. Only you.
Someone else can, maybe, come for you or listen or give you support. But it's us -- you alone -- that can get yourself out of a spot where you are feeling horrible.
How do we do that? We talk about this all the time. Instead of focusing on the problem and everything that's wrong, start thinking about all the possible solutions. Instead of sitting there one place suffocated by your problem, start getting some momentum forward by engaging with all the different possibilities of solutions on how to fix your current situation. Focus on, instead of that one horrible thing...
Another thing that we all do is we create this negative spiral where something goes wrong and it either breaks your heart or upsets you or worries you. Then we start adding everything that we can possibly think of to make us worry even more or feel even sadder.
Don't do that.
Whatever that one thing is, that was a catalyst you feeling bad start thinking about what the possible solutions are to feeling better and getting out of this situation. But then start focusing, discipline yourself to focus on all the good in your life. Everything that you're grateful for. Even if it's a simple as you're -- as beautiful as your heart, your beautiful heart, beating in your chest. The fact that you woke up this morning. The fact that you have somewhere to go and that you have people who love you.
Focus on the good.
What we focus on we're going to get more of. If you want to focus on how bad you feel or how horrible things are, you're only going to find more evidence for more things that will you make you feel awful. But if you want to focus on everything great in your life -- everything great about you -- I mean, it's coming home to the truth and knowing who you are what your intentions are, the love you have in your heart, the love that you give.
Another thing when we are in a tough spot, or we're sad, or depressed, going through a struggle -- that is when, again, discipline yourself to get out there and give to someone else. Be of service to someone else. Even if it's to an animal or just a person -- help an older woman across the road. Whatever it is, make someone smile. Give to someone else and that will already propel you forward and give you momentum. Get you closer to feeling good and be free of that which is causing you to suffer.
I love you all so much. Thank you for accepting me even looking like this. It's not about what we have what we look like. It's about who we are on the inside, and what we can share with the world.
Share your love. Share your heart. Share your spirit. Be you. Be authentically you. Be brave. I love you all.
For more tips and advice about living an authentic life go to https://www.sirilindley.com/authentic/